We are three full days into the school year of 2013-2014. So far, things are going quite well, thank you for asking.
Really. We’ve been up on time, including myself. That in itself is an achievement. I am not a morning person. I’ve been up, been able to have some reading time and coffee before everyone else is up.
I’m prepared for the most part.
I have been able to flesh out the ideas I had for a Bible curriculum and I am seeing my kids understand things already in these first three days which they had never thought of before. That excites me.
One thing has already happened a few times, and it has frustrated me greatly. It has happened with all three children.
“I can’t do this!”
“Yes. You can.”
“No!” This is usually followed by varying degrees of hanging one’s head, sighing, shrugging of shoulders. “I just can’t!”
Three days in to the school year. We have already faced overwhelming material in Math and English which has forced us to rest our head upon the table in despair. We have even had a couple tears already.
This is so high on the list of things I would like to avoid in homeschool, and yet it seems to be so completely unavoidable. I will say I react better than before and we move beyond the moment more quickly. Still, I want my kids to think of themselves in terms of being able to achieve rather than being defeated before they even begin.
Not very long ago, maybe it has been three years…maybe four…Sammy used to come in from being outside with his face all sweaty and red and his hair flying around. His eyes would be wide with wonder and he would say:
“I wish I could go to the store and buy some wings. I would strap them to my back and I would run out in the street and I would fly just like the birds.”
I could believe that he would be able to fly if I could just get him those wings….the wonder and the enthusiasm was so right-there. He knew he could do it.
Now a math problem leaves him in a puddle. Usually because he saw an older sibling in a puddle a little earlier.
So. I want to establish the rule of not being able to say “I can’t.” I wonder if I’ll sound legalistic and boring to the kids, and yet I wonder if they’ll get a little of the concept…they can do so many remarkable things. No, they cannot do anything they want to. There are limitations, but they can do remarkable things.
They can figure out the math problem. They can figure out their homework. They can do so much more.
I want them back to running in with sweaty faces and eyes wide with wonder imagining what they could do if just given the opportunity…rather than thinking they just can’t. That is one of my goals and one for this school year.
I had a teacher tell me this when I said “I can’t”. She would tell me “Can’t never could and won’t never will.” It stuck with me all these years so when I get down and say to myself “I can’t” that old saying comes back and makes me try that much harder to prove that I can. Hang in there, the guys will catch on and “fly” again. You are an awesome example to them.
I like that! Thanks, Carol 😉